Shame: I am Bad, I am a Mistake.  Guilt: I did something bad.  Vulnerability. Hiding. Fear of Failure. (Fertilizer+Seeds:  Secrecy, Silence, Shame)  It's seductive to sit on the sidelines until you feel perfect.  But we want to see you dirty in the arena.

Self Worth.  Being Found.  Courage.  Being of Service. (Antiseptic: Empathy). Worthy people have the courage to be imperfect, and fully embrace vulnerability.

Prussian Virtues.  Excluding obedience are adaptive.  Shame and absolute obedience lead to extremism and genocide.  A study showed that

Fear of Failure: The world doesn't understand that the outliers are those who have continued to fail miserably, and they aren't afraid to fail.  They don't know,  do they want to talk about this because of shame

Teddy Roosevelt said:
 It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.










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